I’m so sorry I haven’t written for a while; I’m in uni every day for eight hours and I’m studying hard as I want good grades! And that got me thinking, even if you’re a positive person like me, everyone has really bad days when you have to take care of yourself! It’s not something to be ashamed of at all, and it doesn’t matter if you have more or less bad days than someone else, there’s no right and wrong! So I thought I’d share with you guys some of the things I do when I’m having a bad day or week to cheer myself up.
🌻 I change my bedding ~ yep, this IS the first tip. But come on is there anything better than taking a hot shower and slipping into fresh sheets?! When I’m having a bad time I change my sheets even more regularly than normal, sometimes weekly or every five days as this will improve your sleeping, as well as being a relaxing experience and making you feel fresh (make sure you take lots of showers too to help you calm down).
🌻 The next thing I do to cheer up is make a playlist of all the songs I want to listen to in that moment, sit or lie down, and just listen to them. Not do anything else but just let the music take me away ~ almost like meditating but just with music. The music expresses the emotions for you allowing you to feel refreshed. Plus music just makes everything better and reminds you other people have felt the same way!
🌻 Do something you LOVE. I know this is cliché, but honestly (for me) if I get out a notebook and start writing poems or songs or singing I feel so much better as it gives me a creative release and sometimes an emotional one. I would recommend things that are active rather than passive, as if you’re just watching tv say, it’s easy to slip back into remembering that you’re sad, especially applicable in the day.
Everyone has that thing that they enjoy doing and if you don’t know it yet here are some things you could try ~ writing (stories? A diary? A blog? Poetry?), exercise (dancing? Running? Jogging? Walking? Skipping?), cooking/baking, reading, cleaning (I’m trying to provide for everyone 😂), playing a sport or an instrument, drawing/painting, sewing….. there’s a long list of active things to do!
🌻 Talk of out with someone. This is where I need to take my own advice!!!! Sometimes it’s really really difficult to talk about how you feel ~ it makes you feel selfish and so worse about yourself. However, that is completely not true! Think about how you would feel if one of your closest friends didn’t share with you that they were upset, but just kept it to themselves and felt worse than ever! Personally I’d be upset that they were upset. This should make you see that your friends WANT to know what’s wrong with you or if you’re having a bad day ~ that’s part of being a friend. If they don’t want to know what’s up with you then bin them. I’m being serious, they aren’t worthy of your time if they don’t care about you! Don’t put effort into people that don’t put it into you! So yeah, just give them a text saying ‘hey I’m not feeling too great today can I talk to you about it’ and if they’re your friend they won’t mind a bit and you’ll feel so much better after, like load has been lifted.
🌻 Okay this is something that helps me ~ I look at photos with my friends and family where I’m really happy or I feel like I look nice in them. This reminds me of two things; firstly, that there are people out there who love me and care for me, and I love and care for them. Plus it helps me to remember the joy I felt at that time! The second thing is that, particularly for me when my down days are nearly always about my appearance, it reminds me that I’m the same girl who looked nice in that photo. This clearly means that I do look nice on some occasions so I shouldn’t beat myself up about it just because I’m not feeling myself on that particular day. It’s just one day of many!
🌻 Finally (for the moment because I feel like this is a long post) ~ make sure you get plenty of sleep! You can help do this by turning off your electric devices half an hour before you go to sleep, reading a book, taking a shower/bath (with bubble bath), listening to podcasts (s/o Fran), listening to music, mediating, drinking a hot drink (not tea or coffee though, preferably something milk based or a hot toddy which is boiling water, lemon juice, sugar and optionally whiskey) etc. These help relax you and make you sleepy, making it easier to sleep in general!
So I hope these tips help you on your down day! Remember that you are loved and remember to support those around you as you’d want to be supported! If you want any more tips I have some more so let me know! Sleep well loves! 🌻🌻🌻
Love, Kirsty ox
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